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Beware of 3 Speaker Sins

by | Dec 10, 2019 | 0 comments

Are you guilty of one or more of the three deadly speaker sins? OK, I have sinned a couple of times in the past. But there’s no need to march into the new year making the same old mistakes! If you fear silence, stand stiff as a board and are too focused on yourself (how you feel or look), I’ve got some remedies for you.

These three “S” sins are dangerous. They can ruin your business presentations and cripple your credibility as a speaker if you don’t know how to fix or avoid them:

  1. SILENCE: There is power in silence. It’s a sin to ignore silence and fill every minute of your presentation with talk. What do I mean? Pause after you ask a question, following a key point (so it can sink in), when you get laughs and as you transition from one key point to the next. Use silence as a power tool.
  2. STIFFNESS: Have you been so afraid to make the wrong move that you stood, stiff as a board, in one spot for your entire presentation? Well, it’s a sin to be so stiff that you sabotage meaningful interaction with your audience. To avoid this sin, make gestures and body movements that bring your message alive and help you connect with your listeners.
  3. SELF-CENTERED: If you’re more worried about yourself—how you feel or look—and less concerned about your audience, your focus is in the wrong place. Self-centered, self-conscious and self-absorbed speakers ignore the most important people in the room. It’s a deadly sin to put your audience’s needs behind yours. Shift your focus. Make sure you and your content meet your audience’s needs.

As you march into 2020, beware of these three speaking sins. If you see yourself slipping into one of the sins, try the remedies listed above. The three deadly sins can be costly. They can turn off your audience and make it impossible for you to connect, inspire and motivate them.

For more ways to avoid speaking sins and other sabotaging habits, check out the power-packed training videos and easy-to-use presentation tips in the Better Speaking Skills Newsletter. Sign up for my newsletter at

Rosalyn Porter

Rosalyn Porter

Rosalyn Gist Porter, MBA, founded Better Speaking Skills after more than 20 years in corporate communications as a manager, writer, and editor, for major corporations such as Lockheed Martin. Today, she helps coaches, business owners, executives, salespeople, sales teams, and other professionals increase sales, confidence, and influence with powerful public speaking and presentation skills! Rosalyn is Certified World Class Speaking Coach and a proud member of the Hispanic Chamber of Commerce of Metro Orlando.

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